Wednesday, September 13th
8:00pm–9:00pm PST
Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Aly and Sebastian Clarke to get answers to your questions about cultivating and sustaining nourishing sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s).
Possible topics can include, but are not limited to:
Getting the romantic and sexual spark back in long-term relationships
Creating more emotional intimacy and closeness
Mitigating differences in libido or desire
Figuring out how to reduce pressure and increase pleasure
Dealing with anxieties, shame, and other sources of getting stuck in your head during sex
Navigating the stress of work and parenting on relationships
Addressing conflict, bickering, and fighting
Clarifying and sharing wants, needs, and boundaries
Cultivating more teasing, anticipation, and foreplay
Exploring new desires, fantasies, and toys
Figuring out how to more easily receive pleasure and enjoy giving more fully
Getting more comfortable ending sexual encounters when you feel complete
This is free introductory event for
Sustainable Intimacy:
Reignite the Flame for Long Game
October 4th, 11th, 18th, & 25th • 7–9:15pm PST • Online via Zoom
Classes are recorded for those who can’t attend live or want extra
Do you and your partner miss that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into complacency and predictability? Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable.
Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, this course gives couples effective tools for rediscovering nourishing intimacy and practical steps for creating lasting change.
This safe and supportive environment will allow you to unearth the specific challenges and beliefs that have hindered your intimacy and learn tailor-made strategies to overcome them. Through carefully curated activities, exercises, and discussions, you’ll be guided on a sensual journey to reignite desire, explore new pleasures, and rejuvenate your romantic connection.
In this experiential course, you will:
Gain insights into how emotional and physical intimacy intertwine, and how to create a harmonious blend of both in your relationship.
Learn how to create a safe space to explore your feelings, needs, and desires with clear communication, vulnerability, and empathy.
Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.
Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
Receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet
Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress as well as the skills needed to overcome them.
Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears.
Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared.
Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy.
Integration Support with Optional Additional Coaching
For those seeking additional support, the optional add-on coaching package will enable you and your partner to more thoroughly explore the nuances of your relationship dynamics. In these weekly coaching sessions with Sebastian, you will receive expert guidance so you can more fully process and integrate the material presented in each of the four classes. Featuring:
A private container: These sessions provide a safe and confidential space for you and your partner to face and move through any challenging obstacles and complex relational dynamics that may feel too entrenched to handle alone.
Personalized attention: Sebastian will offer insights, accountability, and encouragement as you navigate the intricacies of creating sustainable intimacy. He’ll help you identify your blindspots and follow through with the actions needed to create lasting change.
Roadmap development: Sebastian will tailor his guidance to your unique needs, providing custom exercises and strategies that complement your strengths and address your areas of growth so your relationship can reach its fullest potential.
Limited spots available, secure yours today!
Reviews
"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.
"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.
"This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. C.
Instructor Bios
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.
Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke, for this brand new offering. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. It’s deeply rewarding for them to help couples unpack old patterns and unconscious habits and revitalize their intimacy to reignite feelings of excitement, desire, and passion.
Important Info
Ask the Sexperts is a free event, but participants must register for a ticket to receive info for how to attend.
We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races and ethnicities.