Looking to do a deep dive into intimacy?


Dr. Aly teaches her Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse at Stanford University and offers it to a wider global audience as a live virtual course once a year. It’s now also available as an on-demand rental.

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Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse

Jan 23rd – Mar 12th, 2024

Tuesdays, 6:30 – 8:30pm PST

Can’t attend on these dates or want to watch at your own pace? Rent the on-demand version.

There are many reasons it can be hard to create a pleasure-filled sex life and emotionally-secure relationships. We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves - often enforced through shame, silence, and disconnection.

Plus, inadequate sex education means we are deprived of essential intimacy skills, often causing hesitation and guesswork. Gain the skills you wished you were taught earlier in life so you can have the intimacy you’ve been needing.

The Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse features 8 live, virtual classes designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s).

All Classes Include:

A woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development

A combo of lecture with optional breakout room discussions and experiential exercises

Supplemental materials, including handouts, readings, and videos

Extra time for Q&A after

Recordings for those who can’t attend live or want additional review

Individuals, couples, and groups are invited to participate. Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.

Super Early Tickets

(available thru Nov 15th, 2023)

$395 for 1 person or $590 for 2 people

Early Bird Tickets

(available thru Dec 15th, 2023)

$495 for 1 person or $790 for 2 people

Regular Tickets

(available after Dec 15th, 2023)

$595 for 1 person or $990 for 2 people

Can’t attend on these dates or want to watch at your own pace? Rent the on-demand version.

Experiencing financial difficulties? Apply for a sliding scale ticket or send an email to create a payment plan.

The Nuances of Consent and Boundaries

Examine what it means to be sexually empowered. Explore how to seek and give ongoing consent. Change how you relate to saying and hearing no and ease fears around rejection. Discover ways to find shared yeses. Explore the importance of boundaries and how to assert them. Practice having meta consent conversations.

Embodiment and Nervous System Care

Explore how embodiment is essential for healthy intimacy, and get practices for increasing your capacity to be embodied. Discover resources for noticing sensations and emotions in the body and how they relate. Learn to track your triggers and ways to soothe your nervous system with self-care and co-regulating activities.

Skills for Emotional Depth and Safety

Examine your relationship to having needs and learn how to make requests to have your needs met. Explore ways to create more vulnerability with others and improve your capacity to be empathetic. Learn how to give and receive heartfelt affirmations for deepening intimacy. Discover how to have safer heart conversations.

Flirting, Seduction, and Expressing Desire

Learn techniques for verbal and nonverbal flirting. Explore how to avoid being “creepy,” ways to create safety, and how to recover from failed flirting attempts. Learn to read body language and discover ways to escalate and de-escalate while staying in connection. Practice having safer sex conversations.

  • “I have found myself using many of the tools I learned not only with my partner, but also with friends, family members, and even colleagues at work. The discussion groups allowed me to practice new skills and helped me feel a lot less alone. I frequently find myself referring to the course handouts when I am experiencing something challenging in my life.”

    — D.A.

  • "This class changed my life, I am such a different person than I was 2 months ago! I now own my sexual desires, have found an amazing sexual partner, and am exploring new forms of pleasure. I have started to cultivate healthier relationships with my family, friends, and partner!”

    — S.S.

  • “It can often be very challenging for POC to feel safe in such vulnerable environments, but I can't emphasize enough how incredibly informed and compassionate Dr. Aly is, and how safe I felt in the space she clearly worked very hard to curate. I would recommend this class a thousand times over to anyone.”

    — J.G.

  • "We found ourselves in these deep conversations we'd previously avoided — and equipped with tools for compassionately navigating them. Dr. Aly encouraged us to verbalize our desires, and when we started communicating these more, we found our time in the bedroom to be sexier.”

    — B.H. & M.H.

  • "Dr Aly is able to dive deeply into each topic, answering questions and adding rich details. I have not only seen my relationships and communication skills improve, I’ve seen myself understanding improve. This was very much worth my time.”

    — S.L.

  • “The digital zoom format works really well for this topic, perhaps is even better than in-person, as you feel safe to engage as much or as little as you want in any activity. Hearing other viewpoints from a very diverse group of participants helped universalize our own experiences during interactive portions. We can't speak highly enough of this course!"

    — M.H. & B.H.

  • I'm more comfortable, interested and excited to engage with myself and others in a way that is authentic, consensual and meaningful. This is definitely the course to take whether you want to improve your flirting, give and receive pleasure more deeply, or learn better communication skills and boundary setting. Dr. Aly is personable, highly educated, trauma-informed and patient in her teachings. She created a container online that felt easeful, intimate and safe!

    — J.I.

Skills for Maximizing Pleasure

Get tips for how to get out of your head and into your body. Discover how to let yourself receive, and how to reveal enjoyment without performing. Learn how to stop enduring and redirect touch that doesn’t feel quite right. Explore how to experience pleasure from giving and how to create positive feedback loops.

Erotica, Fantasies, and Unpacking Shame

Examine the role of erotica in shaping desires and sexual interactions and discover a wide array including feminist and queer pornography, erotica literature, podcasts, and more. Explore your fantasies and discuss ways to share them with others. Learn how to unpack shame around your desires and become more shame resilient.

Conflict and Repairing Ruptures

Learn when and how to repair relationships when miscommunications happen, boundaries get crossed, and conflict occurs. Explore common repair pitfalls and how to avoid them. Receive a template for effective repair conversations. Practice repairing ruptures in ways that can build trust and deepen intimacy.

Picking Partners and Ending Relationships

Examine what you’re looking for in a partner (for hookups, relationships, and even work collaborations) and develop a filter so you can feel more confident about your choices. Explore how to know when to end a relationship and discover healthy ways to approach breaking up. Learn ways for coping with break ups and processing grief.

your Facilitator

I’m Dr. Aly 

I know what it’s like to feel like everyone else got an instruction guide for how to do sex and intimacy the right way, and it’s so alienating and inhibiting to feel like you’re trying to figure it out all on your own. The truth is so many people feel this way, but it’s not safe to admit it when the response is shame and rejection.

Hired by Stanford University to address this growing need, I created and offer this comprehensive course to help both undergraduate and graduate students create the kind of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they desire. And I am delighted to bring this course out of the confines of academia and share it with all of you.

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